Romans 12:1-2 – Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.
Over the last few days, I have been a part of several conversations concerning young girls, modesty and boys. At the conclusion of these conversations, I was left wondering – where are the parents????
Romans 12 says we are to present our bodies as a living and holy sacrifice. Everyday we should present our bodies to God but we present them to the world in unflattering ways:
1) the foods we eat/lack of exercise – the obesity rates in the country for children and adults can and should be changed. We need to advocate for healthier foods, physical education back in the schools and the lives of Americans, and better health care. As a family, turn the tv off and get outside and do something. Stop the trips to McDonalds and other fast food joints and plan healthy meals at home that are eaten as a family. Contact your political representatives about our less than stellar health care system – just because you have insurance doesn’t mean that others do and aren’t we better off if everyone does…be your brother’s keeper.
2) what we wear – Parents take the time to find age appropriate clothing for your children, especially your daughters. What is the rush to have them at ages under 10 to be little women. If this is an area in which you struggle, seek help. Many major department stores have personal shoppers that are capable of helping you determine age appropriate attire for yourself so that your daughters have a role model besides scantily clad celebrities and Victoria’s Secret models. Watch TLC’s “What not to Wear” as they are not necessarily modesty advocates but they do have some good basic rules as to how a woman should present herself in an age appropriate fashion.
3) what we do to our bodies – watching basketball games is enjoyed by dh and the dc are amazed at how many men have tattoos – “Mommy, he has drawings all over his arms” and that is from the 3 yo. Tattoos and piercings are not examples of presenting our bodies and living and holy sacrifices – they are examples of presenting our bodies full of marks and holes and not the kind that Jesus endured on our behalf. I used to have a pierced tongue trying to fit in and be like some people I was hanging with and when God started speaking to my heart, it had to go. I was tempted to get a tattoo as well but I don’t like the thought of needles pricking my skin – probably will never try acupuncture either. Nonetheless those that I know with tattoos talk about the addictive nature of the process, you can’t stop at just one and therefore tattoos, just like smoking, become false gods. Are you willing to give up the false gods in your life?
Romans 12 goes on to say that we should not transform to this world. Now this is where things can get complicated being that the divorce rate for Christians is higher than non-Christians and there is often no distinguishable difference between a Christian and a non-Christian. However; Christians are not suppossed to fit in/transform to this world, we are set apart and need to embrace that we are different. Walk in your differences!
Lastly, Romans 12 encourages us to renew our minds – are you renewing your mind with daily doses of God’s Word? Do you have family devotions? Set aside time for your dc that can read to spend time in God’s Word? As parents, we need to make sure that God’s Word is hidden in their hearts so they can have a renewed mind that will not fall victim to society’s ideas of popularity, beauty, success, etc. It is not enough to send your child (and yourself) to church without nurturing the development of a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. If you and your children do not have a relationship with Jesus Christ, who/what will you have a personal relationship with?
Our presentation, transformation and renewal show proof to others what the will of God is and it displays an alternative that is needed in our me first, body conscious, hypersexualized society.