Sometimes, I wish I could just shut it

Being an effective parent takes skill and training and the longer that I am a parent, the more I believe that God gives children to show us those things that are in our hearts that we think are small and not worthy of dealing with or that we choose to ignore about ourselves and our personalities.

One of those things for me is my mouth and the words that come out of it. In my mind, I can justify why this isn’t a “big” issue for me because it is not like I curse or something like that but I do have a tendency to have a tone in my voice that says a lot more than the words that accompany the tone. I was reminded of the end of Luke 6:45 (NASB) – for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart. What is currently filling my heart? What should be filling my heart is the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 6:22-3) – love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. You have to love how God calls all of them fruit in the singular and not the plural of fruits. They are 1 fruit even though the fruit is comprised of 9 parts.

My daughter has a tendency to be somewhat flippant and my son said something today that I really think he heard me say or at least something close to it. He didn’t use it in the proper context but that doesn’t let me off of the hook because he should have never heard it and then I wouldn’t have to worry about it coming out of his mouth.

I long for that gentle and quiet spirit spoken of in 1 Peter 3:4 and as a wife, mother, daughter, friend that is my prayer that God would continue to show me those things in my heart that are truly not of Him so that I may fill my heart with His fruit and develop a much more gentle and quiet spirit. Keep me in your prayers!


4 thoughts on “Sometimes, I wish I could just shut it”

  1. Can I say Me too!? I’m right there with you on this issue. Sometimes I think my mouth has a mind of it’s own. It’s not like I curse or anything, I just speak what comes into my mind, too quickly at times.

  2. God’s got me on this journey right now too. I was noticing the sassy way my kids were talking to each other and I realized that they had learned it from me. I was the one teaching them to be disrespectul in their words and actions. Aren’t they just great learners? God really convicted me of my own heart issues that were coming out of my mouth and led me to confess it and repent to each child before we could all move forward. It was a great experience for us all and really brought us closer together.


  3. I am glad that I am not alone in the admittance of my problem. 🙂 My prayer is that each of us will seek fervently to control our mouths and the things that flow from them, may they be blessings and not curses.

  4. Hi there, I visited your blog out of curiousity and discovered that we’ve a few things in common. I’ll be checking back!

    And … I completely agree with you on your post. Sometimes, I feel defeated and regret what I say. I do make sure I apologise to my kids after and that they understand that it wasn’t right for me to say what I did.

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